By Charles Barnard
Human emotions are what can make human relationships indescribably beautiful and empowering or despicably hideous and destructive. The pent up anger that spews out in destructive ways or the ability to see sunshine on a cloudy day will drive our actions and influence our relationships. Our ability to manage our emotions is at the heart of our emotional intelligence and our human relationships.
According to the article, Improving Emotional Intelligence (EQ), the four attributes that are typically associated with emotional intelligence are:
- Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.
- Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior. You know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.
- Social awareness – You have empathy. You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
- Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.
Our family and friendships are the two most influential and powerful relationships we will have with our fellow humans. Training a mindset so these relationships will blossom into the beautiful and empowering instead of deteriorating into the despicably hideous and destructive would entail training the skills, habits, and attitudes necessary to manage emotions, develop self-awareness, develop social awareness, and develop the skills of effectively managing relationships.
Again, according to that article, emotional intelligence will affect your performance on the job or in school, your health and well-being, your relationships, and your social intelligence. In the context of relationships, the article states, “By understanding your emotions and how to control them, you’re better able to express how you feel and understand how others are feeling. This allows you to communicate more effectively and forge stronger relationships, both at work and in your personal life.” Notice the need for self-awareness, self-control, and selflessness.
If you think about the metaphor we use here at Success Institutes of the arch with each part of the arch being a different mindset, you see how they all interplay. The foundation of love, piers of faith and faithfulness, and now the elements of relationships and emotional intelligence all work together to help us take control of our lives and find the beauty and joy in life lived well. I think you can also see how our approach of applying HEAT – habit, emotions, attitude, training would best train self-awareness, self-control, and selflessness.
I hope you all who have been following my writings are beginning to see why I feel it is so important to get teens and their families to do the training. As I have repeatedly stated, teens are in school so let’s get them taking a training that has far more meaning and value than many of the elective courses they will take. I completely understand the challenges in completing the entire training and have tried to do what I can to increase the likelihood more teens will complete it. While not nearly as demanding as becoming an Eagle Scout, where only about 5% of all scouts attain that rank, finishing all of the courses in the Growth Mindset Training Curriculum is similar to becoming an Eagle Scout in that it is challenging for anyone to finish, but those who do have gained skills that inevitably lead to success in life.
I completely understand the challenges in completing the entire training curriculum and have tried to do what I can to increase the likelihood more teens will complete it. Parents, much of that responsibility falls on you to put in place the structure, discipline, and accountability they need. Completing these courses is not nearly as time consuming or demanding as becoming an Eagle Scout, but its benefits are just as great and in some ways even greater. Those who do complete it will be far ahead of the pack in the development of their emotional intelligence among other things. It is also why I reward completion with special gifts and strongly encourage a special celebration. Graduating from this training curriculum is something truly special.
https://growthmimindsettrainingacademy.com/Success-Institutes-emotional-intelligence
